Not Much. Never Suppress a Generous Thought

It was a Wednesday morning. Nothing unusual. My husband was at work, my kids were at school, and I was at my dining room table working on my laptop when my phone rang.

“Hi, Jill. This is Anne. Are you home?”
“Yep.”
“Can I stop by?”

I didn’t know Anne well. She and I attended the same church, and her two teenage sons came to the early morning scripture class I taught. I assumed that’s what Anne’s visit was about. I went back to work, and a few minutes later, through the window, I saw Anne approaching my door. I opened it before she could ring the bell.

“Oh!” She stepped back, clearly surprised. “Hi.”
“Hi, Anne. What’s up?”
“I, uh…” She thrust a bouquet of flowers at me. “I brought you these.”
Now it was my turn to be surprised.
“Oh!” I said. “How nice!”

She shuffled her feet and seemed to have a hard time looking directly at me.

“I, uh, I’vebeen thinking of you lately, and I kept thinking I ought to bring you flowers, but I didn’t. But the feeling wouldn’t go away, so today I just did it.”
She blushed and pushed the flowers at me again. “So, here.”
I took them. “Thanks.”
“They’re not much, but whatever. Sorry.”

With that, she was gone, practically running back to her minivan. I found a vase for the flowers and set them next to my laptop. They were simple, the kind sold at any grocery store, but they were cheerful, and they looked beautiful. A few times that morning, I paused and thought about how sweet Anne was, but really, I didn’t give them much thought beyond that.

Until, about two hours later, when my phone rang again. This time, I looked at the caller, and my heart stopped. It was my surgeon, who just a week before had removed the suspicious lymph node under my arm.

“Hi, Jill,” she said. I didn’t like her somber tone. “Your biopsy came back.”
“Okay…”
“It’s positive. Metastatic melanoma. I’m so sorry.”

She went on to explain that the cancer I’d fought twelve years ago had reappeared, spreading through my lymphatic system and probably growing in other places throughout my body. That I needed more tests, a specialized oncologist, and aggressive treatment. My life as I knew it was about to change—maybe forever. And through it all, I stared at a bunch of flowers, brought to me by a woman who thought she was super lame to do so.

A wise person, Camilla Kimball, once said, “Never suppress a generous thought.” Or, in the words of my equally wise friend Rose Marie, “sometimes it’s scary to reach out. do it anyway. you can throw up later.”

I don’t know if Anne threw up. Maybe. It’s possible. But during the worst ten minutes of my life, her flowers reminded me I wasn’t alone.

– Jill Bitner

Jill Bitner loves reading, writing, and crushing everyone in word games. She has four children and lives with her dreamy husband under the big Texas sky.

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Mike Christian

Back-End Developer & DevOps​

Mike is one of those brilliant, self-taught, back end developers that you always hear about. As a youth he could trust that “My mother would love me no matter what . . .” When he isn’t cranking out new code, Mike keeps up on the newest technologies and every Tuesday and Thursday nights he trains SpeedSoft with his team.

Rafael Pampoch

Web Developer

Rafael has his degree in Marketing and Advertising and years of experience with our dev team. As a teen he could trust that “The most important thing in life is love, and the most valuable things are our family and friends.” When he isn’t working on making the website and mobile versions of Trustyy seamless and functional, he unwinds by exploring nature. His favorite activities are climbing mountains, camping, going to the beach, swimming, playing the harmonica and always learning new things.

Afton Wilde

Accounting

Afton’s experience is in marketing and bookkeeping.  As a teen she could trust that with her parents “Feeding the horses and milking the cow each day before school–not after–was a must.”  When she isn’t busy with keeping Trustyy’s lights on, you’ll usually find her baking up a new treat or working on a sewing project.

Nicoli Cristini

Marketing Assistant

Nicoli has a degree in Multimedia Production.  She has worked with our team of developers for three years.  She learned to trust her own parents when they taught her “Things won’t come easy and that working hard will bring me great blessings!”  When she isn’t putting together beautiful marketing pieces for the Trustyy App she likes to take pictures, play the guitar, piano, and drums, and meet up with her family to laugh over the silly things they did as kids.

Adriano Rodrigues

Mobile Developer

Adriano is certified in Analysis and Systems Development.  In his family he could trust the fact that “One difficult experience teaches me that failure is not the end, but rather an opportunity for growth and learning.”  When he is away from his work in making sure the Trustyy App buttons and bells and whistles are working properly, he likes to go to the gym, to the beach to surf, on walks with his dog, or go out with his girlfriend.

Lucas Baumgart

Product Designer

Lucas’s work experience is in User Experience, Interface Design and Product Management. As a teen he could trust that “In my home honesty was highly valued and lying was not tolerated.”  When he isn’t at work making sure the Trustyy App is easy on the eyes, Lucas likes hiking, gaming, going out for dinner, and spending time with family.

Cadu Olivera

Front End Developer

Cadu has his education in Analysis and System Development.  While growing up he could always trust that “My parents would be there to support from playing soccer at the park to learning to ride a bike.”   When he isn’t making sure things are easily navigated for our Trustyy App users, he likes to play beach soccer and enjoy music of any type, but specifically rock, country, R&B, and pop.

Mike Curi

Back End Developer

Mike is one of those brilliant, self-taught, back-end developers that you always hear about. As a youth he could trust that “My mother would love me no matter what.” When he isn’t cranking out new code, Mike keeps up on the newest technologies and every Tuesday and Thursday nights he trains SpeedSoft with his team. 

Roxanne Thayne

Co-Founder/Chief Marketing Officer

Roxanne received her bachelor’s degree in history and secondary education.  She has worked in publishing and marketing for the past 14 years.  In her family Roxanne says she could trust that “Her grammar and posture would be consistently corrected, to help her to become a lady.”  When she isn’t busy writing and beautifying things for the Trustyy App, you can find her reading biographies, practicing yoga, or gathering the family to talk business, celebrate wins or just plain hang out.

Sidney Rodrigues

Co-Founder/Chief Technology Officer

Sidney has a bachelor’s degree in Web Development and has worked in technology for 16 years, building apps for the last 10 years. Growing up he could trust that “It was always expected that I would fix anything related to technology.”  When he isn’t managing the development of the Trustyy App, you will find him spending time with his wife and kids. He loves to make Brazillian BBQ with his family.

Jim Lee

Co-Founder/Chief Product Officer

Jim has a degree in Design and over 25 years of experience creating SaaS products and managing talented product and development teams.  In his years at home as the oldest of five he could trust that “Each child got a weekly ‘night-up’ where we got to stay up late with a parent and do anything we wanted with them.”  When he isn’t looking 10 miles down the road for what will come next on the Trustyy App, you will find Jim canyoneering, doing photography, watercolor painting, or keeping up on the latest gadgets and technologies.

Eric Turner

Co-Founder/Chief Operations Officer

Eric earned his degree in Communications, Public Relations and Advertising, then added on an MBA.  He says he could trust that “His parents were honest people who kept their commitments–especially to their kids.”  When Eric isn’t keeping everyone at Trustyy on task, he is an outdoor enthusiast, year around, rain or shine, cold or hot, with biking in the summer and skiing in the winter.

Tim Thayne

Founder | Chief Executive Officer

Tim earned masters and doctoral degrees in Marriage and Family Therapy, and has 30 years of experience working with families.  While growing up Tim says he could trust that “My mother would love me no matter what, and that my dad would require that I respect my mother.”  When he isn’t busy guiding the vision for the Trustyy App, you can find Tim working around the house and yard, taking care of his sheep, dogs and horses, or enjoying a game of Corn Hole with the family.