Raising teenagers can be challenging, especially when they are dealing with mental health issues, substance abuse, or behavioral problems. During these difficult times, having a supportive community can make a world of difference. As the saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child,” and this is especially true when your child becomes a teenager.
The secret weapon to building a strong support system is to create an engaged home team that includes people from different aspects of your life. Here are three important tips for building a supportive home team for raising teenagers:
1. Find At Least One Team Member
The first thing you’ll want to do to build your home team community is to get at least one team member. Moving from zero to one team member can make a greater difference than growing from two to fifteen. It may seem daunting to find even one person you trust enough to confide in, but it’s so important to have someone in your corner. Once you have that one person, it becomes easier to find more.
When you’re looking for your first team member, look for someone who knows and cares about your child. It’s important for them to be invested in your child’s well-being, and you should be able to trust them completely. Having even one extra person in your corner can make a world of difference!
2. Be Vulnerable
It is important to be vulnerable with people you can trust. You don’t have to open up to just anyone though—it’s a difficult process and opening up to the wrong person could cause more harm than good in the long run.
Being vulnerable can be scary, but it will help you build stronger relationships with the people on your home team. They’ll be able to understand you and your child better, and they’ll be more willing and able to offer helpful advice when you need it. It can be difficult to open up about what’s going on in your life or in your child’s life, but it’s worth it to build those trusting relationships. When we’re vulnerable with others, they are more likely to be vulnerable with us, which ultimately cultivates a stronger sense of community.
3. Look for Opportunities to Serve
One of the best ways to build a supportive home team community is by looking for opportunities to serve on another’s home team. There are a few reasons for this. First, serving on someone else’s home team can help you understand people better on your own home team. You can know exactly where they’re coming from, how they might be feeling, and how you can better support them. Second, serving others always elevates your life. The time you spend serving others is time well spent, and you never know how you could impact someone’s life for the better.
People are wired to love. Without giving back and providing service to somebody else, our life is not very meaningful. So look for ways that you can help out on someone else’s home team. It will lighten your load, lighten their load, and elevate everyone involved.
A supportive home team
Everyone (including your child) deserves to have a strong support system that has their back no matter what. When your teenagers feel loved and supported even through their most difficult trials, they are more likely to become successful, productive members of society as adults.
Building a home team from scratch can seem intimidating at first. That’s totally normal—it’s a vulnerable position to be in, and you don’t want to feel like you’re putting anyone out by asking them to be a part of your tight-knit community. However, reaching out to others is the first and most important step you’ll take in the process. Just remember that you’re not alone in this, and there are people who want to help you. Trust us, we’ve been there too.
If you want to learn more about this topic, check out the Not by Chance Podcast on the Apple Podcast app, Spotify, or anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
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